Wednesday, 27 January 2016

Work Life Balance - The Struggle is Real.

Life right now feels a little bit like a game of buckaroo, I feel like everything is very delicately balanced right now, but the slightest thing could trigger an almighty crash, resulting in me basically dropping the ball big style. I am probably over dramatizing things a smidge, but at times like this I enter full on ostrich mode and bury my head and hope no one notices all of the things that I am not doing.

I had some great news last week and scored myself a promotion at work, a brand new job, in a brand new department; which I am VERY excited about. It is just what we needed to start the new year, and I can't wait to get going in this new role. However, my final four weeks in my current job just happen to be some of the busiest and most stressful, which is not ideal. Don't get me wrong, I do love my job but working your notice period is always a little tough, as mentally your focused on the fact you're leaving soon.

We have also all been really poorly for the last 3 weeks, I am not the kind of person to use the word flu lightly, but I strongly think we may have had it. Aches, pains, temperatures, ear infections, conjunctivitis, coughs, sinus pain ... It all landed at once, which has meant we have been in survival mode, so no meal planning, minimal house work, just getting by the best we could. Zoe got off lightly in terms of symptoms but the poor girl had to put up with a couple of poorly parents.

Thankfully, we are on the mend, but of course all of those things that we didn't do when we were struggling are now sat waiting to be done. We just got through a mountain of laundry, but its just never ending isn't it? I feel the need to make a list coming on.

I am lucky enough to work part time, so get two days a week with Zoe. When I was on maternity leave we went to lots of groups, met up with other Mums and Babies, frequented sling meets and our schedule was pretty jam packed. Since the excitement of Christmas has faded I am starting to realise that our schedule is pretty much empty now. All of the beloved baby groups are over now (she is too old) and all of our Mum and Baby friends are back to work too, most of a different schedule, making long week day soft play dates impossible. I still go to the odd sling meet thankfully, but only 1 or 2 a month fit into my work schedule.

This is quickly turning into a bit fat moan, and I don't mean it to, I just feel like I need to find a new schedule for us, some new groups more suited to a toddler. Although, all that anxiety about going to baby groups is creeping back, we went through all that 'meeting new people' stress already, I don't want to do it again! I would love to hear what you guys do with your little ones, ideas for planning our time a bit better.

Once thing I have discovered this month is the importance of having some me-time. On Sunday I spent 3 hours on my own in town, I went for a coffee, did some shopping and really enjoyed not having to worry about anything or anyone else for a few hours. When I got back from my little me-date I felt so much more appreciative of everything. I got in and made dinner, played with Zoe and really enjoyed it, rather than feeling resentful or like it was a chore. It was sort of like hitting the reset button and it felt great.

I will definitely have to schedule more me-dates soon, and I even hope to get back into running again as the nights lighten up a bit.

So thank you for listening to my little ramble, I wanted to give you a little insight into what life is like at the moments, so when I don't blog for a week, just assume I am an ostrich and I'm hoping you don't notice.

Oh and talk to me about blog planners, I see them on instagram sometimes and I feel like I need one in my life...



  1. It's so hard. I work 4 days a week and am constantly trying to catch up with everything. I really need some me time and might try and schedule some in next week :) Congrats on the promotion!

  2. Glad to hear that you got a promotion - congrats - and that your me-date helped. Sometimes a little reset can be a great thing.

  3. Hari OM
    Firstly - adding my congrats to the list; had a 'sneaky' news from Aunty H about that!!! Glad your Sissy also got a new position; all such things are esteem-affirming.

    Secondly - my sympathies for your feeling a bit 'under the hammer' at the moment. Having the virus would certainly not be helping the mood (the influenza is a very specific thing - but many viruses now mimic 'flu' and so it has become the word instead of old fashioned cold...). Whilst it might seem a bit 'pat' to say so, you can't beat lots of warming soups and hot drinks which include honey and ginger to start building yourselves up again... and they are easy to make when feeling 'less'.

    Thirdly - house work can be prioritised just like work tasks can. For example; ironing is NOT a task to fret about other than it does create mountains if left undone. I have a basket for the laundry to be washed and another basket for the dried stuff. Only when it reaches the top do I go at it with the hot thing - and sometimes not everything; I refuse to iron teeshirts, for example, or leggings and other such casual wear. Cotton stuff does of course require attention. When I hang my damp washing, I give things a REALLY BIG shake out and all soft materials are shaken again as I fold them dry and in many cases this is sufficient. My mother always said to me at such overwhelmed times (and they happen to everyone at least once in life!) "as long as the bathroom and kitchen are hygienic and you've showered everyday, your hair is tidy and the smile ready, everything else will look after itself." ...

    Fourthly (then I'll shut up!) - that 'you time' is super important. Actually, giving Zoe and her dad time together without you is just as important and that 'reset' for yourself once a week (more if you can negotiate it) can be all the difference between a low battery and a volcanic implosion. Don't think beyond finding just one toddler group at this point. Start with one new one... and it is likely others will appear by themselves!

    Sending etherhugs and a 'she'll be right mate' to you. YAM xx


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